Below is a great article regarding the power (and peril) of praise. We all want our children to know how amazing we think they are! And as your children's teachers, we can tell you that they are all amazing! This article explains how children interpret and internalize our words of praise.
In our classrooms, you may have noticed the teachers using slightly differently language when discussing a child's work with them. We are careful not to label or interpret the work for the child. One of the most obvious examples is a child's artwork. They bring it to us and you can see the pride in their face. You have no idea what it is! What do you say that isn't your opinion of the work? More than the art itself, we love the feelings of confidence, satisfaction, joy and accomplishment we see emanating from our child. We certainly don't want our child to care what others think of their art, so we choose our words carefully:
"You worked really hard on that."
"You are smiling. I can see that you enjoyed painting this. What would you like to do with it?"
"Tell me about your picture."
"I see a lot of purple."
These are just a few examples of things you may hear us say in the classroom. It seems very simplistic and it may feel a little strange when you start, but this type of language takes your conversation and your child's thoughts to a deeper level. It is time, attention, connection and bonding with your child. It says, "I really see what you have done and I want to know more about it and more about you. You are important and I want to hear and see what you have to share with me." Don't we all want to hear this from those we love?